GRADUATION ETIQUETTE
This is the time of year for
Graduations, and therefore, a good time to review some graduation etiquette so
you have confidence in what is the right behavior when we receive an
announcement or an invitation. Now cap and gowns commencements start as early
as Kindergarten so you not only could receive them for a high school or college
graduation but for pre-school, fifth or eighth grade!
Let's begin with the understanding
the difference between a graduation announcement and an invitation to a
graduation ceremony or party.
An Announcement, as its
name implies, is simply a way of informing friends and family that a young man
or woman has accomplished an academic goal. It does not require your attending
any event whatsoever.
If you receive a graduation
announcement, you are not required to send a gift to the graduate. You, of
course, may do so if you wish, receiving a gift is always nice, but you do not
have to. What is always a nice gesture is to send a card or note congratulating
the graduate for his/her accomplishment.
On the other hand, if
you are invited to the ceremony or the celebration of the graduation, you
must send or take with you a gift to the event. Teens don’t seem in
general to be too concerned with buying their friends gifts, but it is our duty
as parents to show them how considerate it is to take a gift to their friend’s
celebration. It is also a good opportunity
to talk to your teens about money and budgets when you go out shopping together
for that gift and guide them into an area of adulting many times neglected,
which is talking about their money management.
Another aspect that is
always a delicate topic is who gets invited to the actual commencement. Usually,
high school and college graduation
ceremonies have a limited number of invitations allotted per student. Most
family members will understand that it only allows for very close members to
attend, but always explain the situation to relatives so they don’t feel they
have been left out of this important family event. A considerate way of dealing with this
problem is to make sure that members from each side of the family of the
graduate attend. For instance, if you only have two available tickets, invite
one grandparent from each side, instead of the couple from either the mother’s
or father’s side.
If you have a large
family that is used to big celebrations and want to participate in the
festivities to show how proud and happy they are for the graduate, then hold a party. It does not even have to be
on the same day of the ceremony which might be too much for one day, but hold
it any day after the graduation and make sure to invite everyone so they all
share the family joy.
Enjoy this graduation
season and share the joy of theses special occasions!